Tough and Miserable Secondary School Life

When people talked about their own secondary school, some are filled with fun memories while some are filled with memories that they do not want to remember. Unfortunately, mine was a nightmare. I hope this story can inspire people to stay positive and not give up because we all went through similar situations back in our school days.

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Well, I honestly can't say that all 5 years (I went to Secondary 5) are miserable but I guess its 85% filled up with bad memories that I never wanted to remember. Even though I hate to remember, I still want to admit that because of those incidents, it helped me grew a lot to become who I am today. Hence, I hope more people can take it as a lesson learned and be positive in their future life.

1) The 'break friendship' with friends

I'm sure most of us went through this phase where your friends are always 'breaking friendship' with you or leaving you. Well, that is just the same for me, when I was in Secondary 1 I had the most number of friends I can ever remember in the first half of the year. Slowly, problems started to surface.

2) The 'people only come to me when they had problems'

Back in the days, people only came to me for advice or to rant. Not sure why, probably because I am so kind and soft-hearted that when they fight with their friends, during recess/break time they would join me and rant about the other party. A few days later I would see them giggling with the friend which they badmouth about.

3) Coming over to me for relationship/life advice

I honestly don't understand why do they come to me for advice, perhaps because I am more mature at that timing (As what they usually said) or because I date at a young age. It seems like I am the counselor and I opened one clinic there where they had problems they come and consult me for free. Specifically relationship/life advice. Well, I should be grateful for that but honestly, it is too much that you will think they are just taking you for granted. You become a 'ranting machine' to them instead of classmates/friends.

4) The 'too kind-hearted'

Of course, you can't expect everyone to like you. There will be some who dislike you too. What's even funnier is that the one who dislikes me used to be the closest friend to me. Do they change to a new person is literally a day? Even though she dislikes me a lot when she fights with her friends she still comes back to me. What is even funnier is that I listened to her rant and help them solve their misunderstanding. But yet that person had never once thanked me but ended up bullying me.

5) The 'being bullied by the popular kids'

Like I mentioned, the one who 'bullied' me is now part of the 'cool kids' clique. She influences people to hate me by (me assuming that) talking nonsense behind my back. Which honestly caused a lot of trouble and friends who ended up turning their back towards me. Sometimes I felt unfair as I helped her a lot and I actually had no idea what I did to her for her to do something like this to me. If I knew, at least I could understand her but I really can't.

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Did any of the points remind you of the incident that you had gone through? Or are you still stuck in any of the points which you can't seem to get out of it? Let me tell you that I understand it is hard because it is not easy for me too. I still had not moved on from there because I am still full of hatred. However, things happen to you for a reason, I hope you could stay positive and look back so you could reflect on yourself to become a better person now.